Expections are inevitable. You expect things of yourself, other people expect things of you, and you expect things of other people. It’s difficult to walk around without feeling the expectations all around.

Covey talks of these paradigms when your expectations actually change your behavior. When your expectations of others change how you treat certain situations or the people specifically. You look through your lens of life and begin to predict certain behaviors and act as if they have already happened in the way you predicted.

I am fighting through hell with my own, but it’s a quiet fight. My expectations are not positive, and my hurt is surfacing. I have identified them, but doing something about them is more confusing and difficult than just figuring out what they are.

I was asked to define my paradigms and couldn’t think of a single positive one.

This fight is a long time coming and I am grateful for the people who understand this and stick around me.